Aita for stopping my dad from having a happy and harmonious family. I brought a book with me.

Aita for stopping my dad from having a happy and harmonious family My brother told me to stop making trouble and to stop lying. My mom and step-dad didn't do anything to stop it and essentially told me I (58F) have a daughter (34F) 'Mel'. After I got Facebook I reconnected with her. I (30F) have been under fire from my brothers (32M and 34M) for not “getting over” what my dad did to us as kids and have been called a “dramatic, spiteful bitch”. Your stepdad is absolutely your daughter's grandpa. I’m almost 30 and he told my friend no. When I discuss holidays with my husband we often refer to things as "my family" and then we will go see "your family" My MIL has accused us of ruining her husband’s birthday and "dividing the family", because two of my husband’s siblings support our decision. and no visible meat, but at the same time it’s not vegetarian or vegan because I might cook it in meat based broths, use fish sauce, sometimes it’s got meat on the NTA my friend tried to come on to my dad. I was named after my dad's favorite actor. hole) have decided to go on vacation instead of participating. Yeah, I'm definitely projecting, but I mostly just wish my dad had checked in even once after a My brother called and went off on me for apparently making him and his wife homeless. I spoke to my dad like many of you suggested, and told him the truth about what my childhood was like due to his emotional absence. I wanted to update earlier but its been pretty hectic with work. But over the years my dad has stopped talking about my mom completely and calls my stepmom my mom. There would be a court proceeding over the custody of Ella, but . There's nothing stopping her from having a birthday party for the child too. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my dad, his wife and both sets of their parents to fuck off after they started attacking my mom for not helping my half siblings who are living through tough times "AITA for refusing to attend therapy with my family?" When I (17m) was 8 my dad found out he had a 10 year old daughter. Exactly this. This might be a bit of a weird background but hang on until I (16F) explain. My other brother Kyle said it was obvious that she was doing it on purpose and he thougjt it was hilarious, and my dad was shocked. They haven’t found anything in there budget that fits their needs. I have tried multiple times to talk to my dad but I don't get a response but I have left him a message to talk when he is available. For context I grew up in a very strict brown religious household where my parents set rules but rarely ever followed it themselves. I also know people will say this would be time with my dad, even if it's with him and the others. I resent his authority over me, and I probably will not accept him correcting me. But they have been through a shitty year. They went to therapy and the therapist brought me in to fix things between me 2. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I have been refusing to hug my dad for almost a year. Reply reply And no I’m not going to stop coming to family events. Throwaway because my friends and family know my main. This all started a couple of years ago and it completely split our family apart. My dad's father abandoned his family. I'm 16 but try to help mom. My father has never been in my life much. This has become a touchy point. I keep most of my life private from them as an adult as My brother agreed and so we became legal guardian's of my nephew. Inform these family members your dad has the right to live his life anyway he sees fit. They had to adjust to not being spoiled all while losing their dad. I don’t care what the ex and her family have to say but my friends who I’ve known since childhood (they know my ex through me) are saying that they support me in stopping the payments but I’m going too far in trying to He said his wife wants me to come and she’s had a change of heart. My dad was a verbally and physically abusive alcoholic until he quit drinking five years ago. I don’t think of Ted as my dad. I had begun to notice my dad paying more attention to his appearance and looking much happier when he met Donna. I bring lunch from home to the office to eat, and it’s always a lot of vegetables, tofu, etc. I then blocked all the numbers. My son, Z (22M), has pretty much been estranged from us since he was 18. Edit: Even though I'm NTA per the votes, I will stop all contact with these women so my comments to them will cease anyway. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action I took is telling my parents I don't wanna go on vacation. I used to always, always, spend Christmas eve and Christmas day with my mom, just because it meant more to her and her family than it did my dad (he and his family aren't really big Christmas lovers, but New Years? that's their deal), they never had a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My sisters were not expected to do the same. I left all my clothes and hers in Italy. To say thank you and contribute to the household, I started buying the groceries for the house. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: told my niece the reason why I was distant towards her growing up 2) it might have affected her more than I thought it would and now I'm not sure if I did the right thing Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I went down to see my family for Father’s Day weekend with my two kids (3 boy, 9mo girl). My wife and I are planning a small vacation to visit her parents soon (my mom is coming with) and she’s really excited for them to meet their grandchild. The next step is to find a good Therapist, nobody but you know how you feel, you need to process the information at your pace. Sarah (my stepmother) was actually our neighbor and I But I do think she's genuinely a great person and she makes my dad happy. Your dad should have told your sister "No" to the sleepover. My nephew was in therapy and still is. Im an only child and don’t have any family beyond my mother as they disowned her when she fell pregnant with me when she was 17. He had a shower for his baby. You might even do a group email or send cards to everyone. " I told my dad if he proposes to her, she will never be my mom and I will ignore her and the baby. They had me when they were both 20 and my mom was the primary bread-winner of the family while my dad became SAHD. Blended families just have that, like how my dad just calls his half brothers he grew up with his brothers and the ones he didnt technically his brothers. My dad basically didn't have a relationship with my brother for most of his life because brother was a chill, happy go lucky nerd. My dad's wife wanted me to divide Mother's Day between my sisters and maternal side with her. It just reminds me mom isn't here and I'll never have my family back. I figured we could each pay our share as well as split the cost for my parents to treat them. The father (Paul) and I were in an on-off relationship. Thank goodness, because they were initially going to name me after my grandmothers, and their names were really old fashioned. That she looks after us and she does care about us. You learn very quick when you grow up with someone like this. One day, I had a serious conversation with him, in which I was My fiancé and my friends say I’m doing the right thing by standing my ground, but my dad’s side of the family is saying I’m being petty and that I need to “forgive and forget. At the start of COVID, my brother received a message through FB from a stranger asking if he had any relation to my dad. Tldr: parents are separated, mum comes over for dinner to get serotonin from pretending we are a happy family, and I'm sick of the mental exhaustion from pretending we are a happy family. When I was 13 my dad had an affair and left my mom and moved in with his affair partner who ill call J. My husband has a big family, 4 sisters and a brother, I was being emotional and didn't stop my husband from leaving, which ruined the family photos and upset all my inlaws. There’s a lot more to consider, here. But I have two children. My dad has a temper and I spent 6th-12th grade stressed out about grades and being screamed at or grounded over things that sometimes weren't even my fault like a teacher not updating online grading and an assignment being marked "missing" because of it. About 9 months ago, my dad's mum (my grandma) died, and she did not answer any of his calls during this time period, although she knew what was going on. She also never tried to contact me despite my dad trying to keep an open line of communication. Me 31 male and my wife 31 female usually host Christmases. Been together for a year and a half, got engaged a month ago and are planning to have a wedding in 7 months. That meant that there was no “clean This why my family did not “step up” for my sister. As a parent, sometimes you have to prioritize your children's events. My dad started dating my mom after he broke up with half sister's mom. 7K votes, 555 comments. This all happened in front of the people the question was about, my stepsiblings, and I know the way I got angry and snapped at dad would have left them confused and upset that I didn't just say of course I love them all. He played sports but didn't mind losing, and my psychotically competitive dad could not process that or interact without getting mad, so he just fucked off. From the sounds of the comments you made your fiancée is doing a fabulous job of isolating you from your family. So basically I (19m) and my dad (50m) have gotten into a fight. There are days where she feels truly ashamed of what she did and wants to go back to my dad, others where she is lethargic and non-responsive, and others where she seems happy and content and talks about a clean slate. Dad said I spoke like my brother (long story but he and dad are not close anymore). Thank you everyone and take care! So when I (f17) was 5 my dad left my mom and me. So, I have lived with my dad and step mom for a while, about six years. My dad told her she was a child and a child the same age as his own daughter. Your dad should’ve stood up for you at the restaurant, I’m so sorry he didn’t that’s literally horrible. Since being back my daughter is now 2 and he was harassing me non stop via WhatsApp, messenger etc. TLDR: I live rent-free with my parents and older brother. My sister accidentally let it slip that they were going on vacation and when I asked who was going, she said everyone and that I wasn’t invited because I had school. If he wants to celebrate the graduation he can throw his own. NTA. Reason why I feel like I could be is my half siblings are innocent in all of this and maybe I could have a little more sympathy for them and my response to dad didn't really show any of that. When Janet got pregnant and had their son She got weird after that and asked me if I don’t care that my dad is dead. Mom does alot of hard work too, to make us all happy. Long story short, turns out my dad another son and never told anyone about him. His family is full of doctors, while my dad owns a business, mom is a stah wife, and brother along with his wife are highschool teachers. He wants me to marry this girl that he and my mom really like. Aita for refusing to have my dad in my life after he chose his new family? When I was 13 my dad had an affair and left my mom and moved in with his affair partner who ill call Janet . When he was in his early 20s, my husband got a girl Posts about "My boyfriend won't go down on me" or "I really want to have sex more often but my girlfriend wants it less often" hasten to reassure the OP that they have sexual needs, and it's okay for that to be a relationship dealbreaker. As much as I try, I cannot make that connection with him. All in all, I thought everything was great and I was excited for my daughter to have a sibling as she's always wanted one but I had no interest in having another child. The incident in question happened a week ago. When Janet got pregnant and had their son It's like she never even considered travelling with the kid. Seth had invited some friends over who I had never met before. My daughter does not know that we have been saving her rent money. " A calm talk. Over a year ago I (29F) started planning a family vacation for my brothers and parents. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! I turned down a family vacation with my dad's family after I decided I was pretty much done trying to have a relationship with him. " My, 17f, dad, 56m, took his wife, 52f, stepkids, 20f and 18m, and my sister, 20f, on a family vacation to another country, and didn’t even tell me about it. Anyway, my dad met Donna (52 f) when I was 7. Ava will now not speak to me and my family is divided between us. And it's a good chance to have a talk between both mom and dad. And the people like you in my lives who have been How to proceed - slowly. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I was 9 years old when that started. My innocent brain answered ‘ I want to call him Dad, because if he’s married to my mum that makes him my Dad’ all these years later he is the best Dad I could have ever It'd be kinda strange for her dad to buy tickets for a family vacation and not also attend said vacation. So, AITA for stopping my daughter’s visitation? I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. I could actually drive there in less than 10 minutes It is good that your grandmother is there to mediate. Then this weekend she wanted to come have lunch with my dad and me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i yelled at my dad that i dont have a sister because hes always forced her into my life even though she died almost 10 years before i was born and has always put me as Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Now that I am She would have actually earned it if we saw her again after that summer. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I did not stop my brother from leaving our family vacation after we had planned it for several months. My mom and stepmother did not get along at all. Note: this is shining a very negative light on my mum, i just want to say my dad is by no means a saint They have their own issues that I won't get to here. My dad, while not actually doing anything himself, had the opportunity to stop my mom but never did. Reply reply Aita for refusing to have my dad in my life after he chose his new family? When I was 13 my dad had an affair and left my mom and moved in with his affair partner who ill call Janet . Since then I saw him maybe 3-4 times at family functions. I see my dad once a year (two years now since COVID hit) and am 19. Now he’s in his 30s and can’t hold down a job. My dad and her split up. His wife tried to be nice to us but she wasn't part of the equation in my eyes. It's shitty actually. He does seem genuinely sorry because he My brother begged me to sell it to him, but didn’t have the money, I allowed my brother(19, doesn’t have his license, but has a permit) to make payments on it, and he’d paid $400 out of the price of $1200 we agreed on/he suggested at this point. Then I told him that if he wanted to start being a dad again, he was going to have to earn that title from my brother, and earn trust from me before I felt comfortable enough to just hand over the reins to him. He forgot her birthday this year, but my sister and I along with a few of Lilly's friends threw a small birthday party for her though. From my family, I found out he got married and had other kids. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am going to stop paying for my child’s apartment and other things including vacations because I want them to make their own way through life. When I tried to continue the conversation, my dad interrupted me. My dad, his wife and my stepsiblings said I spoiled a happy family OP's dad is refusing to acknowledge that he shattered his family. Family is who loves you and treats you right. I can’t imagine a 21 dating my dad. My mom couldn’t come. I feel kind of shitty because my dad was crying a little and I've never seen him cry before. That broke a streak of 10 years of no contact. Reading gave me worlds that did not contain my family. My dad listened and said that he acknowledged my situation. She did have visitation rights but never used them. They have many issues with him but he is family so whatever I guess. My mom, dad, and brother thirty-seven male who I'll call Alex and his to kids Sarah eleven female and Jack nine male, his wife died in February twenty twenty-three. My grandma (dad's mom) left me (27F) my dad's (52M) portion of her inheritance but left him and my brother (30M) nothing. According to my dad, he and his father had a very toxic relationship. He was happy for my dad and was excited to have her as "mom. It's put my dad in a bad spot and a lot of my dad's family think we are wrong for not being more accepting of our brother. I am the AITA for leaving a family gathering because my family made me sit at the kid table? For context: I haven’t seen my full family together in quite some time, so they set up a My fiance (28m) is a doctor, and I 28f work in finance, both earn almost equal pay. My boyfriend thinks Ava is an issue and is just being petty for no reason. Still hit hard with his empty hand, sometimes leaving bruises on my butt. I have my best childhood memories from travelling with my family, I have travelled with our kid since he was 1,5 months and my parents are already looking forward for him to grow so they can take him on a holiday abroad. I'm so happy you have your grandma to help you out like this! My parents also had unplanned children (twins). I said I wasn't having any more kids after my older daughter. They are close with the family. But they did that so they could talk to me. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I also have a twin sister 'Anna' (17F) When I was 12, my dad got married to my now stepfather 'Liam' (42M). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 I’ve stepped back from the gift giving process for my husband’s children 2 I worry that i should overlook their actions even though I don’t enjoy the process any longer I tell him my passion is to be a novelist, he tells me either I can just novels “on the side” My life has constantly been having racing and “get good grades” shoved down my throat. They are short on money and recently found out about what me and my husband have been doing with our daughters rent money. My brothers started defending him but to my dad's credit he did stop them. He didnt need a dad, he respects him like a father and hes still family. She lost her job over COVID and has felt to sad since then to look for a new one. If this had been your stepmom then yes you would have been. I came across your posts & it really resonated with me. Their response was to essentially pawn those parenting responsibilities off on me. I resent losing my family, my room, and your attention to him and his three kids. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I maybe the AH for still going to the restaurant and causing an issue in the family when I could've had my daughter choose a nother one and avoid drama She has also since moved 7 hours away from us, and so her and my dad have not seen each other for around 6 months. I just hung up because I wasn’t going to deal with him anymore. I’m not a vegetarian/vegan, but from the outside it does seem that way. It is fantastic and very adult of you to have taken step No 1, by talking to Emily. A little over 2 years ago, a new bomb dropped. At first me and my sister would visit every weekend and I will admit he was a good dad although I never liked J. I've been ignoring his calls and today he sent a long text apologizing and asked how he could make it up to me. Dad's stepdaughter is 4. Then my mother died and my dad has ZERO concept of being a responsible parent. I know Kirsten's kids and her and my dad's kids looked up to me and loved me and the disappointment might be true. I might not have been paying rent, but I have more than made up for it in other ways, including buying the groceries for my whole family. My dad's wife's daughter wasn't home. To me it’s like walking with you so you are not alone and support during this new chapter. He wants to have one big happy family, and for everyone who ignored what he did. I have been extraordinarily low contact/ near no contact with my father since I left. Three days ago my friend and his girlfriend had a daughter, they asked me to bring my daughter to the hospital to meet her little sister yesterday alongside others of the family. Every time my dad and I start to work on stuff and immediately Meg has another issue with me. My dad (technically my stepdad) Jason is my dad. I told the therapist this. Becouse it's not a healthy environment for anyone. He’s controlled my whole life and has made me homeless a couple of times so I wind up destitute and have to come back to him, I’m now 37 have no confidence and zero social skills and last year he made me homeless again, through the help of a friend I found a room to rent and have survived barely, I have quite a bit of debt that I’ve been working on so one thing I’ve done is Mom, I don’t accept your partner and his kids as part of my family right now, and there’s nothing that will change that right now. I called him by his first name when they were dating. My (17M) parents split up when I was very young, my dad had came out as gay, and they split on good terms. the agreement we had both verbally and in texts was that I’d give him the title once he had his license, that’s what he wanted to happen My grandparents keep me updated on my egg donor’s progress. My father was there as it was his side of the family. My dad and stepmom spent a very long time apologizing. I got immediate flack from my friends, ex, and her family. Some men are okay with any age and some men arnt. To me this is dad creating a new family but not my new family. NTA I think in writing this out it’s clear to you where your fathers priorities are and unfortunately it’s not with his children, I would honestly call him or sit down with him “Dad you are still invited to my weddings, I would like you there, however your wife is not invited, I can’t and won’t invite a person so such an important event that has consistently ignored my very existence I know my dad isn't happy in his relationship because this is what he himself has told me there have been instances where he has wanted to take his girlfriend to court which I can't add due to the nature. My eye-rolling and sighs were considered intolerably rude to my mom. She went to my dad and then the two of them tackled me on saying I would always wish my parents could have been happy together. Perhaps as a family "this behaviour is really affecting us all. My dad named my first sibling, my mom the second, so dad got to name me, the third sibling, my son is named after his father's deceased father and brother. ” Story: AITA for not stopping being ‘spiteful’ about my dad? #redditstories #aita #familydrama #redditrelationship #redditaita #askreddit Ever wondered how we bring these stories to I have nothing to do with my father. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I asked my dad to choose me, his daughter-in-law, and future grandchild over his extended family. I remember feeling the tension between them. My dad was really taken aback and apologized but I walked out. It’s just a thought if you want to have both mom and step dad . Subreddit Announcements Happy Anniversary, AITA! The Asshole Universe is Expanding, Again: Introducing I eat a lot of plant based foods for health reasons. I didn't drink, do drugs, run away or get pregnant (this was the 60's). Truly did. My mom had no family of her own and from the age of like 12, when she and my dad first got close, my dad's family became hers too. I brought a book with me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I took stuff from my mom's house that's mine and left it at my dad's because my stepsister would be sleeping in the room while I'm not there and I didn't like that. I respect him and go visit his grave when I can with my family, but it’s not my fault I don’t have any memories attached to him. AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? I’m 42 (F). My dad said "Sometimes I wish I had met Seth sooner, before I ever married Jane (my mom) and had kids. She moved back home and didn't tell my dad she was pregnant. You deserve to be happy? Sure! You also have kids? Holdup. I will never call him father. My parents were young when they had me. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am excluding my stepmom from helping with wedding planning because of a post she wrote, paired with the fact she was the other woman in my parents marriage and Hell my dad loves my grandpa, but him and my grandma got married when he was an independent adult. I never minded her saying I was her son, or her first born or whatever. My dad was my favorite parent, but after many, many instances of him not standing up for me, that went away too. At first me and my sister would visit every weekend and I will admit he was a good dad although I never liked Janet . Everyone has to hear you two fighting. I said, I do care, it’s not like Idgaf that my dad is dead because he was my family, but I can’t force any feelings I don’t have. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. I (20+F) have a very strained relationship with my father. Ex started texting me late Friday night and all day yesterday saying I was a dick and I should have had my heart melt enough to let him come. I'm only now getting to rebuild that with her. She said I have proven to be an amazing dad to our son and she just wants the same for her son. They got married when I was 14. A graduation trumps a sleepover, every time. He doesn’t talk to me unless it’s on my birthday or Christmas, to which it’s always just “happy birthday!” Or “merry Christmas!”. "Ruining his hope for a happy family" is manipulative garbage; what he's really telling you is "I know the asshole wife I married isn't going to change, so I was hoping my children would My grandparents could not believe dad had dismissed me way back then and then talked about how happy I was about it. My husband spoke to one of his friends today and seems like this is a lot bigger, but has not much to do with us. Neither of them have gone to birthdays, sports events, or even my graduation. My mom and my dad were good friends before they got together. My grandma later married an amazing man who treated her like a queen. She sent me a rude text back and said she won't be coming. Yesterday he called me up to see how I was doing and I told him about some essays I have due soon and how I had some shitty customers at work and I was tired and stressed. We grew up with abuse and neglect and abandonment. My dad, who had the Irish in our family, learned from his dad's abusive "discipline" not ever to use an object of any kind in corporal punishment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My dad burned his life away so that I could have a good one, but now I dont want him to be part of it and I am doing all I can to ignore him. They have split custody, I'm with my mother from Monday to Thursday and my father from Friday to Sunday. I'm an emotional teenager stressing through life and failing two classes. Mom gets sad. My dad's wife(28) saw it and told me I should not read that book since the protagonist is bisexual and it pushes LGBT stuff(if it's relevant it's book 2 of The Trials of Apollo series). I got years of therapy and my brother got years of drug abuse. And also between my dad and my older brother. I told him he was not my dad and if he tried to come to my graduation I’d get him kicked out. Update 2 aita for not letting my dad in my life after he chose his new family. Theo asked if his baby sister could be named My dad didn't talk to me for 2 days after that because I "disrespected my house, my rules" as it has now caused a huge rift in my family. My mother was absolutely not fit to be a mother and my father knew he didn't have it in him to be a good father. For context I am 26F and my father has never been in the picture he left the same day I was born leaving my mother to take care of me. So my parents are still raising him and my mom never worked because my dad was always the breadwinner. I think she was with a friend of my dad's or something. I agreed with my brother and my dad said that it was wrong that we didn’t think to stop Steph from irritating our mother but i think that the situation is between her and my mother and we shouldn’t get involved I told my dad I didn't want my stepsiblings to come on my mom's vacation with me and my sister. I’m currently at my parents while I sort myself out and save up as buying/renting a house is expensive. During the party I overheard a conversation between my dad and one of Seth's friends. Studying helped me dull some of my mother's criticism (education was valued and college was expected). But almost everyone (minus my sisters and minus my mom's family) expected me to see my dad's wife as some second mother or maternal/parental figure. So heres the problem: Zane is getting married soon. I'm pretty sure she means "my family" as in atleast her imediant household and then her mom, dad and possible siblings. My younger brother was more than happy to contribute while my oldest brother made excuses. She and my dad had children together so I get her wanting to include me as well. I snapped at my dad and told him not to ask questions he doesn't want an honest answer to. So, after the many texts and calls from multiple family members, I sent a text to all the numbers detailing what dad did and why I choose to be no contact with him. I would have loved nothing more than to just walk away from him and forget he existed. For context: I haven't seen my full family together in quite some time, so they set up a get together at a park today. When they got married I was asked what I want to call him. My family is a deeply sarcastic one, and I used to not see a problem with it, but now I have trouble talking about my emotions because of various comments made over the years. It's sad. I’m in my 40s now and my relationship with my dad will never be what it I was relentlessly bullied by them for various things I couldn't control: Having a speech impediment, having less expensive clothes, only being to see my dad on weekends, etc. NTA you are supporting your dad, he is happy, healthy and safe. She wants this to be a discussion when the other kids aren't there but so far Anne doesn't want any sessions that don't include Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He made her get her tubes tied after she did it twice. Haley said if that had happened she wouldn't be in my life and that I should be glad that they divorced so I could grow my family. My mum married my step dad when I was 5. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1 telling my dad I don't care about You might not have been the one to read it, but you were still complicit. He’s good looking, I look like him. He interacts when he wants, your children are being more respectable than your other family members! Maybe not have them around so often if they cannot accept your dad is happy. My mother thinks I am doing the right thing by going to university to do my dreams but I should still apologise just to make peace for the family. This has caused conflicts between me, my siblings and our dad. After talking with my family, I decided to file a lawsuit to stop and recover my child support payments. Due to all the legal things, I didn't have a relationship with my mom for a long time because of my dad. The graduation part was a big deal in my family, but my parents said they don’t have to be in my life if they don’t want to. Also, her kids are 4 and 6, they might see you as a big sister but they’re not the ones that are hurt you don’t refer to them as your siblings, Kelly is. Everyone in the family is invited but me. I told my dad it's not my job to make sure my half siblings have a mom. My support system is great, my husband is ahmazing, and I'm able to give enough of me to both of my children. After my dad and my mom (49F) met they started dating at university and they had my brother. I don’t see walking down as “giving away” anymore. When I pointed its been four weeks, he again asked for my patience. Never asks how I am or anything. Have fun 10 years from now when you wake up one day and realize you have no family, no friends, no identity, no hobbies, no fun unless it is what your fiancée allows for you, but you won’t be able to see that now and nothing My stepmom even admitted to feeling hurt, while my dad said that I should try harder to accept them because they accepted me. He's got two stepkids who were 2 and 4 when their mom married my dad, and I have a half brother from my dad and his wife as well. You can’t force a relationship with someone, if they’re giving you an “all or nothing” ultimatum, I would argue that you having mental breakdowns and setbacks in your mental health is not worth having contact with your dad, but ultimately it’s your Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Original Post - June 17, 2023. Sounded really sus so I said no. She’s always trying to compete at an adult level when she’s around me and kind of pops off. "He had a birthday party for his child. (now back to Neither of my kids have any real memory of him. My parents dated all through high school and had me right after graduating. This year, he texted me happy birthday and I haven’t responded. My father had shit on my AITA for Cutting Ties with My Dad and Not Inviting Him to My Wedding? I (36F) stopped talking to my father (72 M) about a year ago. He left us and then expected me to be his nanny. Like you they live in the same town. Last weekend on Saturday my uncle was visiting us and was talking to my mom (his sister) about random stuff and during this conversation he mentioned that Lilly's 15 and can handle whatever they were talking about. AITA for telling my DIL her being poor is not my problem and to stop judging about the 75+ under the tree AITA for “stopping my dad from having a happy and harmonious family” AITA For being upset with my family for promising my dream gift if I held up my side, Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Am I the A hole for stopping my brother's family from coming to Christmas over a joke? For a bit of context. " "She's throwing a graduation party for her kid. Well, at least they bought her something you could exchange, my father and step mom never bought anything for my kids that didn't come from a thrift store (They were wealthy and lived in West Vancouver, and always bought nice gifts for my brother's step kids, but never bought anything worthwhile for my kids that were actually related to them, go figure). Never mind that "Have this kind of sex with me at this frequency or else I'm leaving" sounds super coercive. He threatened to ‘come take my daughter and once I have her you will never see her again). My parents met and had me pretty quickly afterward. Everyone eventually forgot about it. But I'm doing it, and I'm making it work. "Although Dad and A have decided to go on vacation instead of participating in my My 20 year old daughter lives with me (m47). He’s a major AH. AITA for staying neutral in a situation between my son and my daughter + wife. I remember my dad missing my law school graduation, basically because he overslept. I am frustrated for you. I (16M) have recently been dealing with the fallout of finding out that Mum had an affair eleven years ago, and that my brother Danny (10M) might not be my Dad’s. When I was 6 my dad met my stepmother and they got married by the time I was 7. On that day mom had decided that I should spend the night at dad's place. There's nothing stopping her from having a shower for her baby, too. Last weekend I went to visit my dad and his husband Seth for a family barbecue. BG: When Theo was 7 and my brother and late SIL were expecting a baby girl. He's my grandpa. My (15F) parents have been divorced for 10 years now, but remained amicable until my mom passed away 8 months ago. Not trying to brag, but my dad looks great for his age. I’ve known my dad’s wife’s kids for over half a decade, I still don’t see them as anything but my dad’s wife’s kids and at best I call them my step sisters, usually not even that. He and my grandma had 3 kids together but my brother and I were always treated just the same as his bio grandkids. He said that he understood the inconvenience, but kept mentioning that Sarah was in a tough spot and that the arrangement was temporary. My mom and dad divorced about 10 years ago when I was 6, I am 16F now and my mom remarried and divorced once before and my dad has had several long time girlfriends, I have been close with both of them, but eversince my mom moved to another town I have primarily lived with her and spend long weekends and vacations with and at my dad. Let’s call this son Sam (31 M). Then she told me our son wanted his brother at my house and I was an ass for ignoring that too. She has been the best mum and rock through out my whole life and I’m very thankful to her for that. Then my dad's new wife and I had an argument. I figured he wouldn't have been a good dad just because of the type of dad he's been to me my whole life. My dad remarried about 3 years after my mom died. I was worried I wouldn't be able to give her and another child enough of me. My brother and SIL are supposedly in therapy but I have my doubts. An emergency; no problem but day to day childcare was all on her. He worked very hard to be better than his dad! And he succeeded. My parents got divorced when I was 6. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I have been asked why I didn't suggest we do it for them or why I didn't take the initiative like I did for my sisters. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I insulted my parents and siblings beliefs during a fight over something I could not control and something I felt was unfair to be held against me. I recently went to a family reunion and brought my girlfriend with me. She was mad but her next child came 5 years later after marrying her boyfriend (the first baby’s father )and she had a stable job. Even 15 years later, it still sucks thinking about it. My mental state hasn't been the best. I (27F) have been married to my husband (29M) for 5 years. My dad is very much the same as OP’s dad and the only thing I can count on my dad for is finding a way to “be right”. "AITA for refusing to have my dad in my life after he chose his new family?" Parking_Breadfruit80. They’re now getting a divorce, and in the middle of all of this it turns out that Dad wants a paternity test for Danny, and if he isn’t his he doesn’t want custody or to support him after he turns 18. Adam is the son of good family friends, he and my daughter, P (24F), begun dating around when they were 19. For context, me and my brother have never met my grandad. My parents had mandated therapy. I refused to stay at my dad's house ever since and when my dad took my mom to court, I told the judge that I can't live with him anymore. Logan had become annoyed with me refusing to attend his family events and walking out of his mother's birthday party when I realized my dad and Jane was there as he was getting pressure from his family about me ruining My dad knows this, but he always tries to force me to hang out with his stepdaughters and fiancée. My in-laws and the last sibling have been texting me, calling me an AH for turning my husband against his My dad didn't want kids either and my mom went off birth control. When my mom was pregnant with me, Ted got his dream job in a different state across the country and told my mom he had to take it. When my actual mom died she sent condolences to me the same as the rest of my paternal family. Let the family know that Dad and A (for A. I haven't spoken to my paternal grandparents or family since my dad died over 2 years ago. When I was 7 months pregnant | had my baby shower and sent an invitation to Meg. My sister is 11 & I am 27. I’m divorced, and I do kick myself for decisions I made in the past that had me marry my ex. I had her out of wedlock, and it was a very difficult time for me as I was sent away by my family to have her (they wanted me to give her up for adoption, but I kept her). There was no cheating. Even though I have worked hard too my entire life. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! This isn't exciting to me. Recently my son (31M) and his wife have been house hunting. . The family gathering includes me (22m), my brother (21), my sister (25), her husband (29) and their two kids, my dad, step-mom and her kids (6 and 9) aunt, uncle, my two cousins (15 and 20), grandma, and grandpa. Either way, congratulations and I hope you have a happy marriage! It really helped me stick with my decision to not go to the wedding. This was me as an adolescent. We have so many issues that I hate them and would rather they weren't around at all. I remember hearing my stepmother grumble to dad about mom if I had to go to their house instead of home with mom after they had all been in the same place. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I have a feeling that my family may be taking money from me, I hate that I think this but why would they not want me to at least see how much money I have in the account. My brothers are both adults (youngest 25, oldest 33) with well paying jobs. She has a boyfriend Gary (20m) who currently lives with his own parents. It was decided it would be for as long as was needed. She said that she realized how important I am to my dad since they can’t have kids now and that she would like to make up for it all and be my step-mom if I would let her. Dad's wife told me that she and my dad needed me to know that her daughter would need me more than ever. We just think it’s what’s best for my GD not just the family, to just cut all contact until she can have open eyes to her life and really start making the best choices and decisions for my GD. It felt like I was getting it at all ends and then one day, after being asked for the millionth time I blurted out a lie about how I knew my dad and stepmom were happy that my mom was dead because they were having an affair. But my dad was laid off a decade ago and couldn’t find other work in his field so he’s been doing odd jobs and part time work. I still have her as a dear friend on FB. emf bojskfurq phs xxtglx brink bmvyvo uxn dwpqxbzp zghasv kvnm